My baby girl has turned one.
I remember at this moment, 6:10, I was starting to feel more and more contractions, but they were still bearable, and I was still thinking that they were Braxton Hicks. Turns out, by 7am, they were for real and by 8am we were calling the doctor.
This year has gone by so unbelievably fast. I don't remember it going by THIS fast with Caleb. Maybe, it's because with having two kids, the time just goes by faster because you're doing more and more running around. Or, maybe it's because I'm getting older and from this point in time in my life, time is going to go by fast. LOL
Over the past month, Zoe has been surprising us with what she really knows - rolling over from back to front, army crawling, hands and knees crawling, standing on her knees, standing on her feet, taking a few steps while holding on to her hands, and now, starting to climb the stairs.
My baby girl is growing up SO fast.
We will have her party later on today after church. I made the cake this year, which turned out so cute, and we'll be having a lunch/dinner. Going to be a big day. I just hope we can squeeze a nap in there for her somewhere.
Pictures will come sometime tomorrow I'm sure.
Zoe, you won't read this until you are older, but I want you to know that you (and your brother), mean the world to me. I couldn't even imagine what our lives would be like without you. You are my baby girl, and always will be.
I love you with all my heart and all my soul. I can't wait to give you snuggles and kisses when you wake up this morning.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY BABY GIRL. MOMMY AND DADDY LOVE YOU VERY MUCH!
Zoe's Monthly Forecast: Many children take their first steps sometime between 9 and 12 months and are walking well by the time they're 14 or 15 months old. But don't worry if your child hasn't let go of the coffee table yet. It's also perfectly normal for kids not to take that first step until they're 15 or 16 months, or even later. (Learn more about when kids walk.)
Encourage both cruising and walking by giving your child lots of opportunities to move without help and by not picking her up and carrying her too often. You can encourage a tentative walker by arranging furniture so there are safe and convenient handholds all along her path. Remove any dangers she might grab on to, such as a dangling tablecloth or electrical cord.
If your child is trying to toddle, she might feel more secure if she can hang on to one of your fingers, or if she puts her hands in the air and you walk behind her, holding her hands. A push toy provides walking practice, too. Just make sure it's stable and has a wide, secure base.
Two walking aids you don't need: walkers (the American Academy of Pediatrics says they're unsafe and actually discourage kids from learning to walk) and shoes in the house. Bare feet, socks, or the popular soft-bottomed "baby shoes" help a beginning walker practice balance and coordination. Reserve real shoes for protecting your toddlers' feet outdoors.
You can prepare for your child's 12-month checkup by anticipating some of the questions the doctor is likely to ask, such as these:
- Sleep: How much is your child sleeping at night and during naps?
- Eating: What kinds of solid food is your child eating? How's her appetite? Does she enjoy feeding himself finger foods?
- Teeth: How many teeth has your child cut?
- Developmental skills: Is your child crawling well? Pulling up? Cruising or walking? Pointing? Making eye contact and responding to his name?
- Vision: Have you noticed frequent squinting or eye rubbing, or a tendency to hold toys and books close to his face? (Read about other signs of a vision problem.)
- Hearing: Does your child turn toward sounds? (Learn other signs of a hearing problem.)
- Speech: Does your child imitate sounds, babble, or say any words?
Time to add a new appointment to your child's schedule: a first visit to the dentist. The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry and the American Dental Association recommend that you establish a "dental home" for your child around this age. They point out that about 40 percent of children have tooth decay by age 5, and that the rate of tooth decay in baby teeth has not declined as it has in permanent teeth over the last 30 years.
This first visit offers a baseline look at your child's mouth and reveals any problems that your child's doctor may have missed. It also gives the dentist an opportunity to offer pointers on caring for your toddler's budding teeth, preventing cavities, and ensuring the right intake of fluoride. You can stick with your own dentist or choose a pediatric dentist – a specialist with a child-friendly office who's an ace at keeping young children comfortable and relaxed.
At home, continue cleaning your toddler's teeth. You don't really need to use a toothbrush until the second molars (the ones farthest back) come in, typically between 20 and 30 months. Until then, simply wipe the teeth clean before bedtime using wet gauze or a washcloth and water. (To distract your child while you do the job, try giving her a toothbrush to hold.)
You don't even need toothpaste. You can use a fluoride-free baby toothpaste if you like, but don't add fluoridated toothpaste to the routine until at least age 2.
Cow's milk is probably becoming a big part of your child's diet now that she's passed the 12-month mark.
Whole milk is usually the beverage of choice at this age because toddlers need fat to fuel their growth and their considerable energy needs. (Possible exceptions: If you're overweight or obese, or have a family history of obesity, high cholesterol, or cardiovascular disease, your child's doctor may recommend starting with reduced-fat milk.)
At 24 months, your little one can safely switch to low-fat or even nonfat milk.
When consumed in moderate amounts, cow's milk has many nutrients a growing toddler needs. Nutritionists recommend that 1-year-olds drink at least 16 ounces of milk a day – but not more than 24 ounces.
Some kids love their milk and the challenge for parents is not to go overboard. A child who drinks more than 24 ounces may fill up on milk and miss out on other foods that are important for a balanced diet.
At the other extreme are toddlers who turn up their nose at cow's milk, at least at first. After all, it has a different texture, taste, and even temperature than breast milk or formula. Parents of reluctant milk-drinkers can try mixing whole milk with some breast milk or formula at first (say, one part whole milk and three parts of his usual stuff). Then slowly increase the amount of milk to 100 percent.
Find out more about introducing cow's milk and what your options are if your child can't or won't drink milk, or if you'd prefer to give her other calcium-rich beverages, such as fortified soy milk.
It's an exciting time when, after months of babbling, your child begins to form recognizable words. It's not an overnight process, and the pace varies significantly from child to child. One thing is sure, though:She understands far more than she can say. Some things to watch for now:
- Gestures that speak louder than words. Your toddler may be a girl of few words but speaking up a storm in gestures, like raised arms for "up" or a pointed finger for "What's that?" Children who learned sign language as babies are especially "fluent."
- Words with many meanings. An early word like "joos" may mean "I'm thirsty for milk," "No, I want water," or "Hey! I dropped my bottle!" Listen to the inflection. She'll say the same word in different ways and using different gestures.
- Words from everyday life. Perhaps not surprisingly, your child's first words probably relate to things in his immediate life: "Mama" and "Dada" and other favorite people or pets, or words having to do with eating ("baba" for bottle), sleeping ("nite-nite"), possessions ("ba" for bear), or desires ("up").
Your toddler's pincer grasp is probably well developed by now, so she can pick up small objects between her thumb and forefinger fairly easily. She may enjoy practicing this skill on any little thing she finds on the floor, which is a lot closer and more visible to her keen eyes than it is to yours.
Be extra careful about small but potentially dangerous little items that fall to the floor without adults noticing, such as vitamins and other pills, pieces of food (and pet food), pushpins from the bulletin board, tiny toy parts used by older siblings, and so on. They could end up in your child's mouth.
Your child is watching… everything… you… do. Toddlers love to copy the behavior of the people around them, especially their parents. It's how they learn basic behaviors.
You may see your child trying to brush her hair, wiping a counter with her bib, pressing buttons on your cell phone, or trying on your sunglasses. Eventually she'll pick up on your words and speech patterns, too.
Imitation has a downside, too. Your child may watch you take vitamins or pills and later, when you're not looking, decide to do the same herself. So be vigilant about safety. Use child-resistant caps on medicines and vitamins, and store the pills out of reach. Don't let her see how you open child-safety latches – she'll be eager to work them just like you do.
Worried that your little one isn't lurching around on two feet yet? There's probably no need for concern. The normal range for reaching this milestone is very broad, and some children don't walk until 16 or 17 months.
The 12-month mark is a good time to remember that each child is unique and meets milestones at her own pace. What's important is the progression – in other words, that she's continuing to develop and learn new skills.
Developmental guidelines merely show what your child has the potential to accomplish – if not right now, then soon. Trust your instincts, and don't hesitate to bring up concerns with your child's doctor if you're worried or want to know what to watch for.